Tomorrow is Thanksgiving – a day we are supposed to relish in the joys of our lives and surround ourselves with loving friends and family.
For some of us, however, there doesn’t seem to be much to be thankful for. We’re struggling every day. Finances… rocky relationships… health problems… the list goes on.
Life is hard.
It always has been, and it always will be. But, anything worth fighting for is worth the struggle.
So… this Thanksgiving, let’s talk turkey.
“Talking Turkey” is an old-fashioned expression that means cutting through the bull and getting to the point. The real issues. Cold hard facts.
Yes… life is hard. Yes… things don’t always go the way you want.
But YOU are in the driver’s seat of your life. If you don’t like the way things are going… change them!
Talking Turkey point #1: You are in control
Your life is yours. Bad things happen, but how you react to those events is up to you.
When things go wrong, look life square in the face and say, “You will not own me. You will not break me. You will not stop me.”
Say it over and over again until you believe it with every fiber of your being. Pray about it. Meditate on it. Write about it in your journal. Do whatever it takes to put yourself mentally and physically back in control of the situation.
Talking Turkey point #2: Nothing will change unless YOU make it change
Being in control means making decisions. Nothing will get better in your life until YOU make them better.
Change hurts. It takes serious dedication and determination. But the payoff is phenomenal.
Take a moment to think about what your “perfect” life would be like. Draw a crystal clear picture of it in your mind. Where will you live? What career path will you be on? Who will you share your life with? What will you do for fun?
Close your eyes and spend a few minutes LIVING that life in your imagination.
Feels good, doesn’t it?
Now… start a list of the CHANGES you have to make in your life today to make that dream-life yours for real.
Do you have to further your education? Lose 50 pounds? Find a more rewarding job? Pay off debt and rebuild your credit?
Now pick ONE change that is most important to you and write a to-do-list. What tasks must you do to achieve that ONE important goal? Then put that plan into action.
For example, if one of your goals is to find a more rewarding job, your list might look like this:
- Update my resume
- Ask my (pastor / teacher / community leader / coach / etc) for a letter of recommendation
- Research businesses and organizations in my community that do work I find rewarding
- Call each one to ask if they are hiring. (If not, ask if you can volunteer once a week – it’s a great way to get your foot in the door.)
- Send out resumes to all who are hiring
- Follow up with a phone call in a week to schedule interviews
Talking Turkey point #3: You will screw up – and it’s ok.
Every decision you make in life comes with risks. Sometimes you make a good decision, sometimes not. When you do mess up, accept it and move on.
Giving yourself permission to screw up is very empowering.
If you get stuck… go back to Talking Turkey Point #1 – you are in control!
Talking Turkey point #4: It’s easier with others along for the ride.
A long journey is more fun with friends by your side. Hard work is easier with others to help.
Making major changes in your life is no different. Invite others along on your journey by sharing your goals with them. Ask for their help and support when you are struggling. Celebrate with them when you find success.
For a fun way to invite your loved ones along for the ride this Thanksgiving, check out our blog article from last Thanksgiving.
Just remember… not all friends are created equal. Surround yourself with people who lift you up and support you in your efforts. Avoid the downers and nay-sayers like the plague.
If one of your goals is to restore your credit and rebuild your finances… NCES is your partner on the journey! Contact us to schedule a free consultation.
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